Earlier this year I gifted myself the experience to do an online ecourse with Brené Brown on her profound book, The Gifts of Imperfection. Our work has many similarities despite the fact that I’m not a researcher, though I am passionate about vulnerability, courage, and wholehearted living and how to integrate and embody a more permissive existence.
Since completing the course, I’ve been going back to my art journal as guidepost for when I feel lost or find myself stepping on uneven terrain. It’s my treasure chest of sacred tools to help me navigate those unseen curves in the road.
I’ve heard from many this month on how challenging it was, whether energetically, personally, professionally, it didn’t matter, many of us were in the same soup, feeling something, and that something often brought up feelings of discomfort.
I was definitely in that soup (right next to the overcooked, mushy carrots as my sacred sister and I joked about recently… who wants to be near a mushy carrot? Bleh!). Yes, Mercury was retrograde, and sometimes communication can be challenging, though I do my best to not utilize that as an excuse for poor behavior or poor communication skills. It means that I must be even more diligent, and sometimes it means hearing more, speaking less.
My boundaries were tested this month. Ever have one of those months or moments where you’re certain your boundaries are in tact when something rubs up against it and you realize that there was an area uncovered? Yup, that’s how it felt this month. My vulnerability was exposed, and my boundaries were tested.
I reflected back to my art journal with these survival tips on navigating courage, and the one thing that has been deeply rooted in my mind, the mantra that I have taken on this year appeared right before me. It was:
Choose discomfort over resentment. — Brené Brown
I find myself repeating that monthly, weekly, sometimes even daily depending on the situation I find myself in. I’m challenged at times to let my hurt feelings linger and stew (it must be this time of year that has me craving soup!), and the taste becomes both bitter in my mouth and in my heart. It’s not an energy I want to carry around with me, so I remind myself that discomfort doesn’t feel good, but it feels better than resentment.
That has been the Courage for this month, tied up together for me. In what ways can I lean into my Courage by choosing the road of vulnerability, bravery, and sometimes discomfort, to lead me to a clearer vision of my Truth?
Choosing discomfort isn’t a permissive act to behave inappropriately or to speak your truth unkindly. It’s about not allowing the resentment to grow. I do believe we can be kind in our process of being Courageous.
May your Courage guide you, lovingly and safely, to your Truth, and may that Truth be wholeheartedly divine.