November Loves, November Savings

This entire latter half of the year has been on fast forward — the kind where you are sitting on the remote and hit the fast forward button but didn’t mean to… yes, it’s been that sort of unintentional, yet completely intentional fast forward. And here we are, Samhain and Halloween is almost here, and then we enter into the last great month of Fall before we steep into the Winter.

I thought for this update I would share some of my favorites currently happening, the things I am currently loving. It can be easy to get swept up by your calendar and not take time to pause and notice, or even get frustrated by things that we lose sight of the things that are bringing us pleasure, on any level, be it big or small. I know I hit a good two weeks where it felt like the Universe was dumping out my purse upon the wet grass while I rummaged through the messy pile. Checking in on things you love, or bringing those into your atmosphere, can be great remedies, or even just really good check points in the chaos.

Currently reading…

“Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself” by Kristin Neff

This isn’t a quick devouring kind of book… at least not for me. This has been a slow devouring, savoring, letting it roll around on my palette while I decide if I am loving the bite or is it bringing that sort of curiosity that I’m wondering what that secret ingredient is that’s making it so… interesting.

I love Compassion. I practice it. I fail at it. Rinse and repeat. But self-compassion? *deep breath* I admit that I can sometimes be my own worst critic — aren’t we all at some points in our lives? This book has been reminding me of my practice, nudging me where I need to remember to apply it to myself, and giving me those tiny electric shocks in my belly where I know I still have work to do. It’s a good read, I’m looking forward to seeing where else it takes me.

Currently listening to…

“Direction of Motion” by Averi

Music is never not playing in my home. Or my car. Or my mind. I think I have a recurring soundtrack constantly playing that no one else might seem to hear or notice!

I seem to be revisiting old loves circa 2002-2004, and this album is one of them. On a particularly long drive up North at the beginning of the month I decided to pull out my iPod and scrolled right through the A’s and smiled in memory of this band I used to travel to virtually every show they had. And this time of year was one of my favorite times to travel.

While no longer together, their music was nothing short of stellar. *Is* nothing short of stellar!

Currently binging…

“Joan of Arcadia”

I did say that I am in this interesting place of revisiting things from 2002-2004, and this show is no exception. I used to watch this every Friday night while my husband went out with his gaming buddies. It never ceased to amaze me how each week’s episode seemed to have such a poignant message for me in that moment. As I have been revisiting aspects from that time, doing some healing, some re-writing, and other introspective exploration, I was thinking about how I loved this show and how it was too bad it didn’t go beyond two seasons… and I was thinking how I would love to watch it again. So, for kicks, I looked it up and, as the Universe would have it, season 1 was about to begin in a few days… coincidence? Oh I am long past coincidences… and just like before, these episodes are bringing familiar medicine to my consciousness once more.

Current stone I am working with…


It is perhaps my favorite stone ever. It’s varying shades pulls me into this place of both Mystery and calm… and it has been helpful in my exploration of healing with past life (of this lifetime) wounds… and it fits nicely with my work in the Self-Compassion book I am reading as well. I seriously cannot resist a beautiful Labradorite stone.

Current elixir I am taking…

Elderberry Tincture

Oh yes, it’s that time of year! I have already caught my first cold of the Fall season, and it wasn’t horrible, but it was certainly draining. And despite how many times I tell myself I will make some ahead of time, or even stock up early, I find myself in the same predicament of getting sick and being out of remedies, and this year was no exception. Thankfully on one of my trips up North I had driven by a natural pharmacy and went in and they had a bottle available! I prefer it to the popular Elderberry syrup, mainly because it’s not too sweet, has a longer shelf life, and one bottle lasts much longer than the syrup.

Current deck I am working with…

“Animal Allies Oracle Cards” by Jessica Swift

I recently got a hold of this deck through the Goddess Provisions September Animal Spirit Guides Subscription Box and instantly fell in love with the images of these cards. I have already been blown away by my daily pulls and which animals have been wishing to work with me or have a message for me to pay attention to.

While I got this in September, I work with a different tarot/oracle deck each month, and I was already working with another one by the time this oracle deck arrived, so I had to patiently wait until this month to start!

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Clearly I could keep going… but this is a taste of what October has brought for me as I prepare to step into November. AND, if you have read this far, you’re probably wondering about this “November Savings” from the subject heading. I didn’t forget!

If you are a subscriber to my newsletter than you have already received this, but if you aren’t (you can subscribe here) then you may have missed that for the month of November I am offering 10% OFF on all of my readings!

You can go to my Schedulicity and book your phone session (this offer applies to any time frame) using the code SAMHAIN18 before it expires on 11/30/18. I look forward to connecting with you next month!

Oh yes, still PLENTY of Summer left! ***Mid-Year Check In***

I remember as a kid feeling like Summer was this magickal time where everything was available to me in those short months. As an adult I remind myself to remain in that place of wonder. So much so that this year I decided to live a bit more seasonally and less annually. What do I mean by that? Each year I focus on what my year will look like, based on themes and intentions, and then along the way I am either a little off-track, somewhat behind, or jumping on a new train entirely. All of these are fine to a degree, though this year I wanted to focus season by season, much like how our Ancestors lived. This meant acknowledging what are my best/favorite seasons where I feel creatively alive and shiny sticker stars are being handed out left and right (I do, actually, have these stickers!)… and it meant being transparent about my slower months, less desire to emerge out of my introverted cave, needing to focus inward rather than expansively outward…

Midyear check-ins are important, I think, to see where you’ve been, how you feel about what has transpired thus far, and to authentically ask yourself if you are still in alignment with your intention. If so, do you wish to continue your trajectory for the remaining year, or is there something different you’d like to do instead? Likewise, if you’re not in alignment with your intention, what can you do to get back on track, if you desire to continue with your initial desire?

Sometimes I think we feel that intentions are set in stone, that there is no wiggle room for shifting, which sounds silly to me, because we’re ever-growing and ever-changing, and sometimes we come to our own personal crossroads of deciding whether we plow forward, regain our strength, and keep going, or decide to take that strength and apply it elsewhere. Change is good. It’s helpful. And it can be scary and uncomfortable at the same time. It’s not an either/or situation. It is Choice.

What does my Midyear Check-In look like?

  • First, I evaluate my Word of the Year (WOTY) and ask myself if I’m still in harmony with its medicine, or do I have some re-aligning to do? My WOTY for 2018 is: BECOMING. My intention was to focused on stepping into my own Becoming, and ask myself (over and over) questions like what am I Becoming, who am I becoming, what is my Becoming, etc.
  • I pull some cards (oracle/tarot) to get a sense of where I am at. I sometimes use layouts that I’ve used in the past or ones that I come across, but honestly sometimes I’m just throwing down cards in whatever way feels correct. The whole concept is to continuously learn to trust our intuition and let go of any ‘rules’. Your cards are begging to be played with! Go have fun!
  • Journaling. When in doubt, journal it out. I’ve said this for years. There’s literally not a day that goes by when I’m not journaling. However, for this Midyear Check-In I start with a reflection. I don’t even like to look through old entries of the beginning half of the year to be honest. I don’t want to judge myself or stay stuck in a story that I might be working my way out of, or get lost in sentiment. I want to focus on the recollection of how I am feeling in that present moment.I don’t want to spend a long time doing this. It’s easy to get lost in an emerging of thought and memory when reflecting on the previous six months. I’ll reflect briefly on each month, a quick few sentences and feelings without being in the feeling (this is important because in this process of reflection we don’t want to get lost in any feeling, be it beneficial or not, because it takes us out of the present moment and puts us in a temporary dream state which pulls us from our intention check in…).
  • After all this reflection — and done from a place of loving compassion to self, because blame doesn’t propel us anywhere, it simply keeps us stuck in old conditioning that we can’t, or we won’t, and that type of conditioned language is what we must consistently work on to shift — I look at what I want for the remaining year. Then I ‘popcorn’ style some Word Medicine. This is a fancy way of saying that take another page in my journal and write out one word intentions that support my main intention and WOTY.If you’ve been to any of my classes or have had any sessions with me, you know I love One Word Medicine. Love. LOVE. So much can be held in one word. There’s no pressure to come up with a giant statement. It’s clear, concise, to the point, and from there we can break it down even further within the medicinal scope by creating acronyms. Word Medicine and Journaling? *foams at mouth* This is my jam!
  • Then I finalize this with another reading. This one is quicker than the previous, because I really only want to focus on one, or no more than three, cards to guide me into awareness for the remaining year.

Check-ins in general are healthy. I do mini check-ins each month, generally around the Dark Moon time as I prepare my next Moonwheel. I like to observe the Moonwheel I’ve just completed, check for any repeating themes that showed up for me as I take that as a point of awareness to work on — whether it’s healing or amplifying those themes — and sit in the endarkenment for a time.

Whether it’s regularly or now and again, see where you’re at. What’s going on for you? There’s still plenty of Summer left… what will come to Harvest in this season for you? Tend to the sacred relationship of Self. Check in. A great question posed by one of my favorite poets:

things. that should be asked
often. in every type. of
relationship :
how is your heart.
is your breath happy. here.
do you feel free.

-nayyirah waheed

New Year, Now What?

The New Year is upon us, and for many it feels like a sigh of relief. We have survived many challenges, take with us the celebrations of joy, victory, and connection… and after the ball drops at midnight, after the first full night’s sleep of the new calendar year, somewhere there lingers the question of now what?

Learning lessons year after year, we start off January filled with a sense of hope, renewal, excitement to create something N-E-W. Resolutions are made either made or not, or if the word “resolution” doesn’t sit well, we build intentions. Whichever you choose to call it, there is opportunity, and with opportunity one of the things we’ve come to learn is not to waste it. Seize it! Become the skillful Magician in the tarot, having all of your tools available and crafting not only your needs, but desires as well.

Still, sometimes we can put a lot of pressure upon ourselves to have the perfect new year. I held a Shamanic Journey Circle on New Year’s Day and shared how we can be so hard on ourselves and hold January 1st as a hostage to be everything. If it’s not everything we expect or hope it to be, somehow it means the remaining 364 days don’t count. We can’t begin again. This was our only shot.

And you know what? It’s okay to feel that way. Really. It’s a process of uncovering where expectation sits within the psyche, guiding us to exactly where we need to create healing and reprogram these discordant thoughts.

What did my new year, set intentions of January 1st look like?

  • Feeling low energy because the cold I had couldn’t decide if it was staying or going (as of this blog post it has decided to take up residency and may have brought a guest or two… *grumble*).
  • Pre-teen daughter nitpicking all of the things! (Like, all of the things!)
  • Having a lovely time at the Shamanic Journey Circle with meeting new people and getting to reconnect with an dear old friend I hadn’t seen in over a decade!
  • After Circle dinner made available to me courtesy of one of my students where we could eat, chat, and ground.
  • Generosity of a lovely and thoughtful gift for Yuletide season.
  • Getting into the car and seeing the dashboard read -8… however, my new vehicle has seat warmers and the amount of gratitude I had for toasty buns was in high gear!
  • Arriving home and nearly pulling an all-nighter because sleep was out partying for New Year’s I think…

It wasn’t the perfect New Year’s Day, start of the beginning, leaping into my intentions… and yet, it was. It showed me what life is always teaching and showing me: that it’s not about what we can control, it’s about how we lean in, surrender, rise up, transform, and learn to truly honor ourselves, in all of our parts.

And, oddly enough and divinely adorable, a year ago today I wrote a post about the New Year and different ways to create your intentions. It’s a great reminder on helping to kick start a new year, whether it begins on January 1st or another date, it doesn’t matter. We begin when we say we begin. Feel free to peruse this old goody and gain tips for crafting your year. I’m amazed by how much I worked with certain aspects and not so much for others. I’m nearly done with crafting my intentions for the year.

Meanwhile, January also starts my creative sabbatical, and I’m happy to say that despite my cold and feeling like my fetch self must cozy into the cave and sleep f-o-r-e-v-e-r, my creativity feels like it is flowing. I’m approaching it with much curiosity instead of expectation. I am making sure that any time I feel like I am clinging to what must happen that I take a breath and approach it like a curious child, in wonderment of what could be, not what has to be.

Whatever your new year’s theme will be, may it hold excitement and curiosity for you, meeting you in a place of beauty and ease, guiding you to all potentiality. Blessed New Year!